I was also told I focus too much on the haters around me.
I think what I have is too many people who don't get me in my space...or on the fringes of my space.
In some ways, they are almost as bad as the negative people (who are also on the fringes of my space).
If you don't know me or get me, please wait before you try to judge me. This applies to even those who think they know me best. Don't assume you understand my methods of coping or existing, and don't apply your template for thinking to any of it.
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You see too much focus; I see me marking my fxcking perimeter and closing it off and putting up warning signs. I see barbed wire and a circle of salt, and a "YOU ARE SEEN. YOU ARE NOT WELCOME HERE IF YOU HAVE COME TO WREAK HAVOC."
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You see me "responding" to negativity; I see me declaring who I am to the world and the Universe, and not backing down from my statement.
Completely ignoring the presence of those who come for you--I mean, REALLY come for you-- is not positive. It is setting yourself up for a possible problem, and I will not abide.
Do you leave your home unlocked when you see the wrong people about? Do you ignore them and keep on as you were with the windows up exposing all your valuables? No, you put up security. You install an alarm or a deterrent. You let people know that you are at home.
That...is what I'm about. Letting that element know, if and when they try to come for me, that I am at home and that alarm is on and they will NOT pass...and they will regret if they try.
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If I talk about it, it is to raise awareness of it being there. Not lamentation...and not acceptance.
Once you realise this--and the fact that everyone's experience is relative to them--we'll get on just fine. Invalidating by saying "If I did that..." or something similar is not going to help anything.
TLDR: Get off your assumptions about people and find out the truth instead. My experience and methods ain't yours.
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